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What to do? Work vs. money vs. time?
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Over a month ago - By needfixin
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I got a great opportunity to almost double my pay but the new position requires a lot of traveling. I love to travel but for vacations not for work, I'm going to miss all the time with my BF. I'm not sure what to do? The extra money will allow me to save up for my future retirement especially if I don't end up getting married I'll need to save all I can. But being away so much is going to be very hard to do, I mean we could talk on the phone but it won't be the same.
I'm just venting this is a hard decision which I'll need to make soon because my boss is leaving town for the memorial day weekend and wants me to give him an answer by then. |
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Over a month ago - Replied by: power_mom
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Hi!
We are sort of in a similar position but it was my then boyfriend ( now my husband) who was traveling most of the time. You have to talk to your boyfriend and let him understand. His understanding and support can lift up your spirit. Now we are married after 5 years of dating ( on that kind of job) and my husband is still traveling most of the time. You don't have to be together most of the time. My general rule for my husband is that when he is at home, we should be spend time together. It's all about managing your time and supporting your partner. Hope this helps! |
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Over a month ago - Replied by: OceanWolf
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I think you should seriously consider taking the job. If your BF supports you, it will be a good test of your commitment to each other, and it will allow you to stretch your wings before settling down. If you go down the family route at some time in the future, and you're staring at yet another load of laundry to put in the machine before folding the last one, you're going to wonder about the stuff you could have done before kids that you didn't and now can't. Don't have regrets. Stretch out and see what it's like further down the branch - if you don't like it, you can always move back closer to the trunk. Good luck.
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Over a month ago - Replied by: nancymoore16
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I don't think that should be affecting your relationship with your BF unless both of you discuss it over the phone or in person before you start travelling on your work, A good advice is to sort out money matters way before marriage.I think dating couples will soon discover whether they’re living up to it, or just being financially prudent, or being outrightly stingy.
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Over a month ago - Replied by: KevinK
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"needfixin" had probably already made her decision, but I would counsel to take the job. Staying behind for a b.f. is bound to lead to resentment and regret if you stay and then don't marry him (for whatever reason). Of course, you should talk with him about it and get his opinion. But if there's no proposal in the cards, better to move on to a new city and new job than to be left empty-handed.
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