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is she generally playful, or something more?
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Over a month ago - By bobthepinkmonkey
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so first, i feel really akward about using a site, but sometimes it's better to hear advice from strangers than friends... okay, so theirs this woman i've met through mutual friends that clicked with me almost instantly, she's bright, funny, energetic, cheery, peppy, yhall know the type. anyway, with me she can show all of the above traits, or can hold a serious conversation and trust me with information such as why she's terrified of relationships, or dark facts about her childhood that she hasn't told many other people. i've asked her out before, and got rejected (why else would i be here, right?) so i just assumed that i was reading too much into it... but am i?
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Over a month ago - Replied by: mariahkvesich
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Hi Bob,
Some of the things that make us most interesting, like a bad childhood can often hold a person back from being able to partner up. At least this girl is smart enough to know it. Hopefully, she can get some help from a therapist who can guide her through her problems rather than listen to her regurgitate them to revel in. In the meantime, you said that she rejected you, so whatever the reason, you need to move on. Sometimes, we are incapable of breaking it off in an efficient manner which leaves the one dumped with dreams of a future together if he just holds on long enough. (I'll be writing a fix that discusses this, so please look for it.) The problem with that is who knows if she'll ever be available. Then what happens to you, Bob? Are you willing to wait months or years for her to come around? It may sound romantic, but it really isn't, especially if she hits it off with someone else while you patiently wait. Do yourself a favor, get some closure. Then go out and have fun. Move on and date for the purpose of pure enjoyment. Who knows, you may meet another person whose available and interesting for healthy reasons. Please consider just one other thing-- Do you often end up with un-available women? If so, you may need to work through some issues as well. Please think about it and I wish you the very best. |
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Over a month ago - Replied by: mariahkvesich
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p.s.-- I think you're smart to ask for help =)
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Over a month ago - Replied by: ricodad
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Why'd you ask her out if she was giving you the friend vibe? I don't get it, when guys get the friend vibe from women and think that it is a cue to go in for a kiss. Women know if they will sleep with you before the end of your third or fourth sentence. If she was into you in "that" way, she would have flirted and touched and let you know she wanted romance, not someone to be her sounding board.
Work on figuring out when a woman wants "it" and when she wants a friend. It is great to have females as friends, because eventually they wind-up hooking you up with a girlfriend of theirs. But knowing the difference is vital to keeping a female as a friend. If she's your friend for a while, you are pretty assured that she won't want to be with you romantically. RicoDad |
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