It used to be that religion and politics weren't up for discussion in polite company, a wise piece of etiquette! However, when it comes to developing serious relationships, its important to get that stuff on the table. Family feuds still erupt over whether to baptize at the Baptist versus the Southern Baptist Church (The names of the churches really don't matter.) let alone whether the child will raised agnostic or will spend Sunday and Wednesday nights at the local place of worship. There could be other, non-child issues, like which holidays are celebrated and where. Its hard enough to figure out which set of parents get you for Thanksgiving, try to decide whether you'll be sitting at the Christmas Dinner at all... Ouch! Sure, you need to get a date to figure out if you want to talk about this stuff, but get it done way before you commit yourself for life.

yeah, but it would dpend on how serious you are as an agnostic. I am not adverse to religious ideals, so if a hubby wanted to raise the kid catholic, I wouldn't care but would not go to church myself (luckily I married an agnostic)...

Now if i were an atheist, it may be an altogether different thang I suppose...

Once you make that commitment, its permanent. When those little ones come around your feelings become so much more intense... You really have to be sure, and supportive. Resentment can set in if you're attitude is that of, "I'm letting Daddy raise you Catholic, but someday you'll know better", and you will have far more problems than you can imagine. Of course, not everyone will come to this mentality, but you must be sure. Marrying someone who shares your religious philosophy removes an obstacle, however its one that many can and some others can't overcome.