I went through something similar (only I was the less religious partner). I definitely think they should work through their religious issues before the baby arrives or soon afterward. Hopefully their differing levels of religious commitment won't detract from their relationship.

The major problem to me is not whether he should be dragged to church or not. The HUGE issue is his breaking a promise, one that her marrying him pivoted on. If he would have been honest and told her that he only goes to church so she will sleep with him and as soon as she gets pregnant, gains some weight, and he’s not as interested in sleeping with her he will stop going to church. Does anyone think she would have tied the knot with this chiseller? I sure don’t.

The religious issue is not deep. They are not of conflicting faiths. They don’t have the worrisome task of choosing which religion to raise the child.

The problem is that he is not honest. She should remind him that he vowed to be a church-going husband and she should make him live up to his promises.

We show people how to treat us; and the way we respond to broken promises means a lot. If she lets this slide she is opening the door to other broken promises. Fidelity is the first that comes to mind.

“Come worship with me or get the hell out!” may be a little on the harsh side. But just a little!


xo
LL

Lefty, you hit the nail on the head! And now to the heart of it all, how do you make someone do something that they don't want to do?

It's all a part of being in any relationship. Nobody is 100% compatible with their partner. If he promised to go he needs to go because I guarantee there is stuff she does with him that she could care less about doing. She should bring that up to him, and tell him that she won't make him do what he doesn't want to, but then state something to the effect of "but I will remember this next time you need me to go to a ball game with you or you want me to watch an action flick with you at the theater."