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Money Keeps Us Together
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Over a month ago - By mariahkvesich
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We often hear that money is one of the greatest causes of divorce. However, I wonder how the lack of money relates to keeping marriages together. Divorce can cost a couple an overwhelming amount between lawyers fees, investments which have to be sold at the wrong time, loss of a house, and two separate homes to be supported on probably the same income as one in the past. Most folks suffer a hit on their credit score. Homemakers end up giving up stayiing at home with their children to take the first available job while paying someone else to care for their loved ones. We fight and fight over money, but fiscally, is is wise to break up a family?
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Over a month ago - Replied by: Letty_Livingston
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The experts say that it is SO the wrong time to divorce. With no jobs and money being so inflated, they advise people to tread water and make the best of a crappy situation because divorcing in this economy is fiscal suicide.
However, since we are the relationship models for our children, we may be paid in dividends of future happy children and grandchildren if we don't stay together for the sake of the kids. Children realize when they are in a loveless home and tend to mirror what they learn from their parents. So, if you stay with a partner whom you do not love, your child may wind up not knowing how to be in a loving relationship. It seems that this is a learned trait and not one intrinsic to humans. Just my two-cents! xo LL |
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Over a month ago - Replied by: ricodad
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Nowadays, it seems that women don't get huge alimony, like back when I was a kid. I guess it is because they have so much earning power. That is progress. Of course, child support is paid, but you'd have to pay for the kids if you stay together or not.
I really, have never considered getting divorced. Ever. It is so hard as a couple to keep up with the Joneses; so, I imagine that doing it as a single parent is tough too. I agree with Letty, that if there is no fixing a marriage it is better to divorce than staying together "for the sake of the kids, as we are models for them. In our home, we kiss and hug in front of our kids. PDAs (public displays of affection) are part of our lifestyle. They [the kids] say Yuck and stuff but they are learning that mommies and daddies kiss and hug and are romantic together. Hopefully their little minds are taking notes!! RicoDad |
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