How Do You Escape From An Awkward Date?

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George takes Suzy out to a dinner and movie. Suzy is trying very hard to enjoy his company, but is getting really annoyed and embarrassed around George. He is being socially awkward and pretends to be "cool." Suzy would love to just dash and run, but does not want to hurt George's feelings. How would you get out of a date that you know is going downhill without breaking the other's feelings?

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ricodad	Dec 17, 2009 12:23 PM If people said less and did more they'd get better results on first and second dates. Blah, blah, blah, is what most people wind up saying. They put their feet in their mouths. Actions speak louder than words. So, if he is acting like a cool douche. You tell him so and get up and walk out. Most women who walk away from men want them to follow and apologize for whatever it was that made them walk away; otherwise they'd [the women] would be running, or dialing 911. If you got up and walked away, telling him he was too cool for you. He may get the message and wind up being a nice guy. Honest responses are the equalizers to fakeness.
Brittany	Nov 19, 2009 12:31 AM thanks for the advice. that is true. i agreed to it so i should commit to it. thanks all!
Letty_Livingston	Nov 17, 2009 09:31 AM Touche! KK! I like a man who stands by his word! xo LL
KevinK	Nov 16, 2009 08:51 PM I'm very happy perched up here on my fence, LL. Yeah, I thought about that pov. And obviously everyone gets to make their own choice on what's right in these situations. But I stand by my advice: you made the date, you go through with it (assuming the other person isn't being rude or out of line). It's my "would you do that to your coworker/boss" rule. If you wouldn't act that way to a coworker or a boss, you shouldn't do it to someone else. Not everyone will ascribe to that philosophy, but I believe in it. That said, always enjoy sparring with you here...I know OUR dinner date would be anything but dull :)
Letty_Livingston	Nov 16, 2009 03:48 PM OMG! KK Careful balancing on both ides of that fence! If a date is not going well the person who is having a lousy time should be adult enough to say, "Hey, this is not going well. Let's cut this short." and that is that. When dating "it" is either there or "it" isn't. If "it" isn't - enduring someone should never ever be an option. Everyone has bad days. And it could be the problem in the aforementioned scenario. After Suzy says she wants to cut the date short, George could say that a deal fell through at work and it bummed him out. So, he isn't himself, and that's why he was pouring it on so thick. He may agree to cut things short. But his honesty may win him another shot. Communicating with earnest is better than trying to make mental maneuvers on the fly. Suzy owes getting up and walking out to herself and George doesn't factor into that. In all reality, it is the very adult thing to do. OR the very British thing to do. I have a ton of Brit friends and the upper-crustier ones are very matter-of-fact when it comes to dating. It seems to ferret out the wankers rather quickly. Oh well, there are my two-cents Lotsa Love LL
KevinK	Nov 16, 2009 01:29 AM Suzy's first mistake was to commit to a dinner-and-a-movie first date with someone she didn't know that well. First dates should be planned to be somewhat brief and contained. Dinner OR a movie is fine, but dinner AND a movie (a 3 to 4 hour time commitment over multiple venues) with someone you barely know is too much, too soon. But hindsight is 20/20. Once you're in the situation, even if it's just dinner, a brief date can seem interminable if it's not going well, as Suzy found out. But that is still no reason to be rude or hurt someone's feelings. If Suzy agreed to the date, she should simply grit her teeth and get through it politely and positively. Even the most boring or borish date can be endured for an hour or two. And it's quite possible that the guy who seems to be awkward or trying too hard in hour one might become more endearing and to your liking in hour two. That's what dates are for - to give yourself the chance to get to know someone over a period of time, not to make snap judgments and act on them in the first few minutes. However, if George is acting rude or otherwise inappropriately, Suzy can politely but firmly tell George that she is glad she's had this chance to get to know him a bit better, but she would like to end the date now. No lies, no sudden headache, no fake "emergency" call from a friend. If George protests, so be it, but Suzy should be definitive and exit the situation cleanly. If she has any doubt about how George may react, she should end the date in a public setting and ask someone who works there to call her a cab (or, if she drove, to walk her to her car). She should not let George drive her home if there are any signs that it may not go well. Suzy should also offer to pay her share of the date so far since she is changing their plans. It may irk her to have to drop a few bucks to make a hasty exit, but it's a small price to pay to do the right thing and end the date without unneeded hard feelings.
Brittany	Nov 15, 2009 11:10 PM Oh, I did not even think about a friend calling. That is a good one. Now I feel a bit oblivious to what I can do. haha. Yeah, loosening him up could be a good alternative as well. Maybe all he needs is someone to acknowledge that he is fine just the way he is. Thanks for the comment. [:
mariahkvesich	Nov 15, 2009 08:44 PM There's always the method of having a friend call your cell so you can make an easy escape, or ignore it if things are going well. If stuck there, treat the evening like a sales call. Ask the person about himself and do everything you can to make him comfortable. Maybe once he loosens up, things will go better.

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