Time Out for Sex

If you're reading this, presumably you have kids and are interested in finding out how to have more time for sex with your spouse.
As the parent of two pretty young special needs kids (ages 3 and 6) who works full time, as does my spouse, I know how
difficult this can be.  We‚Äôve come to a point, though, where we are realizing that spending more time in intimacy is
better for both of us.  Looking back over the last few weeks, I‚Äôm seeing some ideas that have worked for us and will
share them with you.

• Babysitters. Ok, you may not be comfortable getting it on while you have a sitter, but eventually my husband and
  I learned to get over ourselves when my mother-in-law was here. Now it's no big deal and we also do alone time while
  she's engaging the children.
  


• Quickies.  Boot up the kid's favorite film and get busy as fast as possible. Currently my girls are digging Space
  Chimps, which gives us a nice 15 minute pause for some monkey business of our own.
  


• Don't be selfish. Not in the mood during a rare naptime or early bed hour for the kids? Who cares? It's not all about
  you. You can please your spouse, and maybe next time you'll get a nice surprise in return.
  


• Be creative. Sex isn't just, well, sex. It can be intimacy, necking, cuddling, and a whole host of foreplay activities.
   Time is short? Well, so is life and your marriage is too important not to give yourself a break away from the kids. No room to
  boom boom if you're on, say, vacation? Try a bathroom. The key to intimacy is making it work wherever or whenever. (PS, I'm NOT
  advocating doing it in public!)
  


• Kick the kids out of bed. I don't co-sleep with my kids because I'm a light sleeper and they are heavy kickers. But
  sometimes we start out with them in bed, if they are scared or sick, and move them out later. If you sleep with your children every
  night, it will erode your intimacy with your partner and that will erode the strength of your marriage. A strong marriage is a
  better gift to your children than sharing a bed as they get older, in my opinion.
  

Just a few simple, tips. Share your great ideas for making time for making love when you have young and needy children. I
could use the advice!