Letty Livingston's Dating & Relationship Quiz

Our popular columnist tests your relationship savvy

Greeting Readers,

The following is a quiz. I know, you didn't know about it and didn't have time to study, but it is not that kind of quiz. This one will be fun and if you like it, I'll be sure to put more together for you in the future. Do a web search to read more of my internationally acclaimed advice column Let Letty Help. In the meantime enjoy the quiz and send any questions in to me at help@letlettyhelp.com. All submitted material is considered for publication and all names are kept in the strictest of confidence.

The "Dating & Relationship Rules According to Letty" Quiz

1.) What do you do when the person you've just begun dating asks to borrow money?


1. Loan it to them no questions asked.
2. Ask her what it is for and if it is for a reason you feel is good enough, loan it to her, but get them to sign a promissory note.
3. Ask if he thinks you are a bank and then kick him to the curb.
4. None of the above.

2.) A key factor in keeping the sex sizzling in a long-term relationship (LTR) is?


1. Communication.
2. Experimentation.
3. Impetuosity.
4. All of the above.

3.) When on a first date, which topic of conversation is one that should be discussed?


1. What the craziest place your date has ever had sex was.
2. How crappy your last relationship was.
3. The issue you are most insecure about.
4. Your values regarding family.

4.) If your mother has been telling you for years that it's time to settle down and you are thinking it may be time to listen to her because your biological clock keeps ticking louder and louder, you should:


1. jump on the first person who says they love you and get married.
2. relax and try dating outside your norm for a change, as variety is the spice of life.
3. tell your mom to butt out of your love-life and stop calling her for a month, as that should teach her to mind her own business.
4. ask your happily married friends to set up as many blind dates for you as they can; one is bound to be in a rush too.

5.) You just started dating someone and ended up sleeping with them WAY too soon, as you would normally wait a good long while before jumping into bed with anyone, and you want to make sure that person knows you aren't "that type of girl" (or guy).


1. You should just go with the flow.
2. It already happened and actions speak louder than words.
3. call them as soon as possible and tell them that you have never ever done anything like that before.
4. continue to date but refuse to be physical to prove that you do have a modicum of self-control.
5. set the next date up to be at a place where your pals "happen" to hang out and have them sing your praises while you "happen" to excuse yourself to the restroom.

6.) You are married to or in a LTR with a man who you make more money than. He has been giving you attitude about your spending habits, your "hoity-toity" friends and the fact that you enjoy wearing designer shoes.


1. You should tell him to shut it before you make him wear a skirt around the house and cut off his allowance.
2. ignore him; as long as you have a closet full of shoes, he is only there for one thing anyway.
3. explain to him in a very caring manner, ensuring not to injure his fragile ego, that your income is an asset to you both.
4. kick his ass to the curb faster than you can speed-dial all of your friends and invite them to the Marc Jacob's sale at Neiman Marcus.

7.) Divorced for a year now and dating quite frequently, but never with the right guy, you are considering bringing the men you date home to meet your two pre-teen children so they can help you decide if he is a good catch for Mommy. How long should you wait before bringing the man into your home to meet your kids?

1. Three dates. Just like the three date rule for sex, if it is long enough to see about having sex, it must be long enough to wait to bring a man home.
2. No set time limit, other than a good long time; as your kids are not ready to see Mommy test driving new daddies just yet.
3. Six months. If he lasts that long, he must be the real deal.
4. Never. At least, not until he pops the question and gives you a ring.
8.) The man you have been dating (or are married to) has stopped being intimate with you for a while now. He blames it on being tired as he has so many responsibilities at work. He has been home less, working lots of overtime, but he has also started to get more dressed up for work, is wearing new underwear, and just started wearing the aftershave you bought him for Christmas two years ago. You can

1. be expecting him to come home with some wonderful gifts soon, seeing how he is putting in so many extra hours.
2. be grateful he finally started using that gift and expect him to begin having sex with you again, as soon as the overtime slows up a bit.
3. start checking his credit cards and spending habits, because these are telltale signs that a man is having an affair.
4. recommend he takes vitamins, because overtime or not, you expect him to perform at least once a week for you.
9.) The person who said, from nearly the minute you met, that they loved you, that you were so head over heels about for the past few months, suddenly up and left and is now back with their ex. You


1. were the rebound.
2. must have chased them away.
3. always attract the people who fall for you then run back to where they came from.
4. Both a & c.
10.) If a person said that they love you for the first time and it was during sex, does it count?

1. Of course it counts; it is a cold world out there, so take it where you can get it.
2. If the person really meant it, they would have said it long before they were having sex with you, so it counts but not as much.
3. The person would have screamed I love you to a shoe if it were doing to them what you were, so of course it does not count.
4. Talk is cheap and the proof of one's emotions is in their actions. So instead of trying to figure out if the person meant what they said during sex, use the way they treat you in order to gauge if they really love you or just say it to keep the romance alive.

Answers:

1. c. Ask them if they think you are and bank then kick him to the curb.
   Never, I repeat, never loan money to someone whom you just started dating. It is one of those red flags that if goes unnoticed will end up costing you more than some heartache.


2. d. All of the above. Communication, experimentation and impetuosity are three fundamental factors to keeping things blazing in the bedroom. Speak to your husband, wife or lover and share your deepest desires with one another and try to make each other's dreams come true. In case your imaginations are limited there are many possibilities for you to delve into. You can experiment with; sensual massage, role-play, bondage, porn, toys, food, feathers, wigs, wax or any other number of fun and fancy-free ways of expressing desire for each other.


3. d. Your values regarding family. A lot can be told about a person from the way in which they view family. It does not mean that you want to start one with them, but if they honor their parents and love their siblings, it can be a good barometer as to how they handle relationships. Other topics to touch on are things you believe in, your career, your extracurricular interests, future plans and your dreams of success.


4. b. Relax and try dating outside your norm for a change, as variety is the spice of life.
   Sometimes we do get all caught up in what society and those who are close to us hold as the "norm", but mother's also ask us, "If everyone else was jumping off of a bridge, would you?" So, if you are stuck in a dating rut, change the type of person you normally see romantically and open up to a little adventure, or maybe a little normalcy, it may be the prescription for what's ailing you.


5. a. Just go with the flow. It already happened and actions speak louder than words.
   Rules are made to be broken and sometimes you will meet a person who will make you throw caution to the wind. Do you actually think that person will believe that you haven't done that before, especially when it was so steamy? Doubt it. Own your actions and enjoy the sexual chemistry you have with the person, chances are the electricity won't be as frenetic with the next person.


6. c. Explain to him in a very caring manner, ensuring not to injure his fragile ego, that your income is an asset to you both. Some men continue to cling to the old-fashioned ideal that the man should be the breadwinner. He has to come to terms with the reality of the situation at hand and accept that your earning potential is simply greater than his. Be certain to communicate to him that your career is not a threat but a benefit to the both of you. Don't fling it in his face; be sure to be sensitive about it. You wouldn't want to bruise his bravado in any way. He should be happy that he has an educated, intelligent and industrious woman as his partner.


7. b. No set time limit, other than a good long time; as your kids are not ready to see Mommy test driving new daddies just yet. Not only that, your first priority is the children's safety and wellbeing, not your own romantic happiness, so doing background checks to see if the guy is a registered pedophile, a wife beater, a child abuser, or has issues with anger, drugs or alcohol is a great idea. If he clears these checks and you think the time is right, wait just a little bit longer. Not only for your kids safety but also because if he isn't the one, they will begin to see a pattern of their mother being with different men and their future relationships will reflect what they learn from you.


8. c. Start checking his credit cards and spending habits, because these are telltale signs that a man is having an affair. A man does not just happen to start wearing new underwear, unless someone new is going to be seeing them. And sudden urges to look sharp and smell great don't just creep up and bite a guy in the butt. Men want to impress women, and if it is not for you, some other female is receiving your man's time and talents. If these are some of the goings on in your relationship, something is undoubtedly going on outside of your relationship.


9. d. Both a & c. You were the rebound and sadly enough, most people who are the rebound once will be the rebound again, as they fit a "type"—the type who looks to heal broken hearts, nurse baby birds and sick puppies back to health, who is desperate to be loved and love someone, and who wears their heart on their sleeve and let's the world know it within two minutes of talking with someone new. One of the fastest ways to prevent yourself from being a rebound it to ask the person you have just met how long ago their last serious relationship was. And if they say it was anytime sooner than the longest amount of time you have had the oldest piece of meat in your freezer; don't rush into anything with them.


10. d. Talk is cheap and the proof of one's emotions is in their actions. So instead of trying to figure out if the person meant what they said during sex, use the way they treat you in order to gauge if they really love you or just say it to keep the romance alive. "I love you" can become a routine saying that loses its meaning or it can be music to your ears, depending if the speaker lives up to the meaning behind three of the most powerful words in the world.




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