How to Get Along With Your Partner's Friends

What to do when you don't click with the people he clicks with

Let’s face it, it is not always easy to get along with everyone, and this includes some of your partner’s friends. While it can be hard to get along or even get close with your partner’s friends, you need to make an effort because these are the people that are very close with your partner and mean a lot to him. So this makes it even more important for you to really try to get to know these important people in your partner’s life. Here are some steps to follow when dealing with the friends closest to your partner.

• Make a strong effort to get to know your partner’s best friends, taking time to ask them questions about their background, work, and interests. Go into this open minded no matter how you may feel, and don’t be judgmental.


• Try to find something positive about each one of your partner’s friends so that you can have a greater appreciation and respect them. If you try to see the good in your partner’s friends, it may mitigate any hasty feelings that you have toward them and also help ease any tension between your partner and you that could be caused by the friction.




• You don’t always have to join your partner when they are spending time with friends. The both of you don’t have to be attached at the hip every time one goes out, but you should always offer to be involved in any special occasion that is really important to your partner, such as a work party or award ceremony.


• Don’t talk bad about your partner’s friends to your partner—no matter how much you may not like the person. If you didn’t hit it off well with one of your partner’s friends at first, shrug it off unless the friend did something to make you feel extremely uncomfortable (such as make a pass at you). Over time, you may begin to see and appreciate what your partner sees in that person.


• Refrain from getting too close with your partner’s friends. It is one thing to be friendly when all of you are out in a group, but don’t call your partner’s friends to meet up for dinner alone. This could lead to misunderstandings or even jealousy, which could threaten their friendship.

You do not have to be best friends with your partner’s friends, but you do need to get along for the sake of your relationship. Be friendly and charming and let any of the bad chemistry just roll off your back. Remember, you are not dating them; you just have to see them every so often, so being nice shouldn’t be that hard.